Nollywood actress and media personality Dorcas Shola Fapson, popularly known as Ms DSF has spoken out about the insecurities of Nigerian men when faced with successful women.
During her appearance on the Bahd and Boujee Podcast, she shared her personal experiences with men who felt threatened by her accomplishments.
Ms DSF revealed that many Nigerian men struggle with feelings of inadequacy when confronted with a woman’s success, beauty, and confidence.
She expressed that even her male friends have confessed to finding her intimidating due to her achievements.
“When you are successful, beautiful and have everything going for you, I feel like it can be intimidating to a lot of men. I’ve had a lot of my male friends tell me that I come across as intimidating” she emphasized.
According to Ms DSF, a successful woman doesn’t need to prove her worth, instead, it’s the man who must demonstrate his value and level up to match her standards.
“It takes a very secure man to support, encourage and love someone who is successful, beautiful and has everything going for them. Because you [the man] have to bring a lot to the table. I don’t have to prove what I am bringing to your table, you have to show me what you’re bringing to my table. You’ve to level up and beat my level.
“It takes a lot for a man to do that and for him to be secure in his masculinity and not feel like the successful woman is overbearing” she concluded.
In another story, Ms DSF recounts how man refused to date her because she lost her mom as a kid .
During the podcast, which featured host Moet Abebe and co-anchor Tolanibaj, Ms DSF recounted the shocking moment when she disclosed to a potential partner that she had lost her mother at a young age.
Shockingly, the response she received was one of rejection. The man, whose identity remains undisclosed, told Ms DSF that he couldn’t pursue a relationship with her because she hadn’t grown up in a “two-parent household.”
In her poignant recounting of the encounter, Ms DSF expressed her disbelief and hurt, questioning whether she could be held accountable for circumstances beyond her control.
